Okay, everyone is doubting my blog readership, and I will say this to you, check out my blog roll. I’m friends with several of those people in real life, and because I spent ten years in the Bay Area, I’ve participated a live sex show and had several boyfriends who said things like I thought it was prefectly normal to kiss that guy on the train, I feel perfectly comfortable asking people how many hits a day they get. In the Bay Area, the first thing every single person says upon entering an apartment — how much rent do you pay. Here’s my point: I get a fraction of the hits the people in my blog roll and my commenters get. A fraction. A small fraction.
I’ve not really participated in a live sex show. I have seen them, though. And I’ve still not had an STD. I do have an SUV, however, and in Portland that carries about the same social stigma.
Here’s how I explain it to my friends who get a lot of hits: I’m a blogger’s blogger. There are writers that great writers love, but the general population has yet to catch on. And I’m like that, but for blogging. Very popular bloggers read this blog, and I love them, but their masses have yet to make the leap, which is fine. There are only so many times I can open my email and find an angry missive about something I’ve written. If you must know, because I believe in total honesty in all things, yesterday I had 69 unique hits. And those 69 people love this blog, and I love them right back. So thank you 69-ers. You’re my favorite position.
Last night I went to see my friend and partner in crime, Frayn Masters perform with her group (well, there are two of them and I don’t know what that’s called) Eastland Academy. It was one of the funniest things I’ve seen in my life. I was crying, I was laughing so hard. They did this sketch where they were two teenage boys at their final high school party and feeling maudlin, except they were wearing unicorn horns. And their names were Cinnamon and something else I can’t remember. Anyway, I laughed for the entire sketch. I laughed through the dialog. And then I laughed harder. And I embarrassed the people around me, for sure, because I was laughing so hard.
And then I remembered how when I was in high school, I wanted to be an actor so badly. I wanted so much to be in a school play and I never got cast. And then, at sixteen, I knew the feeling of pure hate because I hated the drama teacher so very much. And I still might a little. I also hated my writing teacher because she gave me Fs, and I thought that was bullshit. And I had to walk out of her class a few times just because I was so pissed and because I was a teenager. For the record: my writing teacher and I have worked that shit out and I love her to bits. My drama teacher has yet to call to apologize for not casting me in David and Lisa. What the fuck? Just because you have a pert, blond deaf girl in the drama class doesn’t mean you can’t try a different person in the starring role of a pert, blond deaf girl. Think outside of the box, woman.
In any case, my desire to be an actor and then seeing my dear friend be such a good actor — and a funny one at that — made me think, I CAN DO THAT TOO! After the play we went out with (half) the cast for a drink. And several of her friends who I’ve never met went and because I was around people I didn’t know, and because I always try extra hard to contribute to the conversation around people I don’t know because I don’t want to be that person who just sits there and has nothing to say because in these situations, when the pastie is on the other breast, I always need to make conversation with the quiet person because I feel responsible for their quiet state AND I was thinking, I can be funny and project my voice and be funny and I WANT TO PERFORM! It led to my not saying the most appropriate or socially correct things. Like (apropos of nothing): “you cannot take a guy dancing because THAT SHIT CAN GO VERY WRONG.” And: “have you gotten married before, because I have, and I’d imagine that ACTING IN A PLAY is a lot like YOUR WEDDING DAY. Because SHIT goes by really fast and then you need to come down and after my wedding my husband and I sat on our living room floor and said, WHAT THE FUCK DID WE DO?”
The people who we were with were lovely and polite about the whole thing and I think were rather relieved when I said my goodbyes. I don’t blame them.
Here’s my point, and really, this is a message to Steve: maybe we can find some sort of microchip on Craigslist that can be placed in my brain so that when I leave the house there will be a filter between the brain and the mouth (or the outloud voice as Steve calls it) so I don’t regret conversations the morning after quite as deeply as I regret sexual encounters in my 20’s wherein the only comfort I have is the fact that I always used a condom. I need a conversational condom. Anyone know where I can pick one of those up?
And to Frayn Masters: You rocked the house, girlie! Thanks for being awesome. Sorry about the cookies. And the conversational train wreck. If we could have our meetings in the unicorn horns, I think we’d be ten times more successful. Think about it.


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May 18, 2008 at 9:37 am
Cathy
I knew I wasn’t the only one with that outloud voice affliction, but I would never in a million years have suspected you. You are the most wonderfullest person in the world/universe and anyone in your company is blessed and they better fucking know it or I’ll be all Freddy Kruger on them.
Welcome to earth darling. Welcome to the goddamed human race my sweet. You don’t need to call your therapist. Just breathe.
May 18, 2008 at 11:20 am
The Underblawger
First, thanks a ton for taking the time to comment on my blog. That was way cool of you. Another thing that is way cool (and hilarious) is YOUR blog which, from the sound of it, has about ten times the readership of mine, and should. In fact, my best day ever was 67 hits. Trust me, 67 is not nearly as fun as 69. Still, like you, I love my 67-ers just the same. Anyway, I’ll be a regular visitor now, so maybe you’ll rise into the 70’s which, as my parents’ wedding pictures affirm, is a very stylish place to be.
May 18, 2008 at 12:07 pm
heather
i think my blog kind of a private joke with myself, and i don’t really tout it (except to my friends, and with them i take great umbrage if they don’t know about things that WERE IN MY BLOG LAST WEEK DAMN IT DON’T YOU CARE?). i get 40 – 90 hits a day, and i know some people are reading through the livejournal feed and various feed readers. i find this readership kind of weird. who are these people?
lots of random hits, the most scary being “[my name]” fuck photos. (i have never been on a live sex show, either, for the record.)
oh, and my steve totally needs a brain condom. i have never found a way to say this to him. THANK YOU.
May 18, 2008 at 12:27 pm
apollocreed
If you find that microchip I’m pretty sure Ari would pay top dollar to get one and put it in my brain as well.
May 18, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Rachael
You have 6.9 times the readership I do. And to pump some more sunshine up your ass, you’re funnier, more prolific, and employed.
And if you’re the blogger’s blogger, that is not necessarily a bad thing. You’re like the Patti Smith of blogging. Sexy, on the edge, cooler-than-most-anybody.
Deal.
May 18, 2008 at 3:56 pm
crissyspage
You know what’s so funny?
None of the things you said would ever even raise an eyebrow at one of my parties. People would love you for it.
My sister in law once asked out loud to a group of women, “so have you ever fucked your boyfriend in the ass?” And no one even flinched.
No one.
So you can come to my parties and not worry about your frontal lobe. At. all.
May 18, 2008 at 4:59 pm
Kevin
I thought those statements (dancing, marriage, etc) were hilarious and so did the rest of our comapny. Did you think you were hanging out with the Mormon Bridge Club or something? Ha!
Also, I like the term “blogger’s blogger.”
May 18, 2008 at 9:52 pm
thoughtscapade
This may be stereotyping, but I don’t think the thespians mind crazy-out-of-your-ass talk. Don’t they all love improv and stuff like that?
May 19, 2008 at 3:34 am
ken
i see a problem with this plan: i think the microchip is temporarily shorted out by ethanol.
as far as the 69, i do enjoy it as well. however i have an issue with it, and that is i never quite know whether i should revel, or contribute. yes, you can do both at once, but not REALLY WELL, ime: you need to concentrate on one or the other to be in top form.
perhaps i just need more practice.
on a side note, you should see the search terms that refer people to crissy’s site! lol. i’ll probably make a post about them.
May 19, 2008 at 10:50 am
Andie East
I’m so confused…what post did I miss where everyone doubted your blog readership? What happened? Where have I been? Maybe I should be reading more comments…
May 19, 2008 at 10:59 am
Kiala
I’m sorry I didn’t comment on this before.
I’m catching up.
I love your blog. And actually, Matt Davis and I were talking about this last night. I don’t remember if we came to any conclusions because I was too busy tongue kissing a bottle of wine.
May 19, 2008 at 12:02 pm
Oakland Girl
I need one of those condoms SO BAD.
I’m about to go back to smallville, and they are so totally necessary there…. because you have to face the same people day in and day out. Oh yeah… and if you do something totally embarassing, people also tell your parents about it. And my parents like to reinact the moment for all to enjoy. awesome.